We all know that children do better when they have lots of encouragement and affirmation. For many of us grandparents, this is very natural and easy. We know life is short, and we’re not going to waste an opportunity to let our grandkids know how we feel—how proud we are, how much we love them, how much better life is when they’re around.
But how do we do it, exactly?
… especially for those who don’t find it natural and easy. We can all learn and grow in this area, and we can learn from each other. So here are some suggestions to consider. Some of these ideas will seem too obvious or basic, but maybe you need a reminder.
Physical Affirmation
Touch can carry powerful affirmations: a bear hug, a kiss on the cheek or forehead, a rub of the head, a squeeze on the knee, a pat on the back, an arm around the shoulder, even a fist bump. And it may seem more natural with a toddler grandchild, but teenagers need it just as much. Try some of these:
- If you’re able, grab your grandchild and pick him up off the ground. Maybe you can’t throw him in the air anymore, but that’s still a great way to connect.
- Sometimes be very intentional, like when you want to reinforce an accomplishment with a big congratulatory hug. Or maybe it’s a “just because” hug. Those can be the best of all.
- If you’re having a hard time initiating a hug, make a verbal request. Say something like, “Got a hug for your Nana today?” Or, “Sweetie, I could really use a hug.”
- Hugs feel a little more natural during arrivals and departures—even if you’ll be seeing each other the next day. Take full advantage of those situations.
- Even brief physical contact can be meaningful. Give your grandchild a smile and pat on the back as you pass each other in a hallway or when you’re standing close to each other.
- If it doesn’t come naturally, start small, like a fist bump. Or find your own expression. In all likelihood, you’re going to have to be the one to initiate it.
Verbal Affirmation
Your teenage grandson gets a raise after just a few months at his new job. Your granddaughter has an amazing game at goalie for her soccer team, even though her team loses. Interacting with your grandchildren, you’re simply struck by their intelligence, beauty, kindness, or perseverance.
In today’s world, too many people have positive thoughts and feelings, but they go unexpressed. Somehow it isn’t always appropriate to give a sincere complement or say, “I’m proud of you” and then talk about why. Let’s start identifying and expressing the joy of grandparenthood much more often when we’re with our grandkids.
Try some of these with your grandkids.
“Way to go. I’m proud of you.”
“I love your positive attitude and perseverance.”
“I can’t wait to see how God uses you and your gifts.”
“Hey, how’d you get to be so smart and beautiful/handsome at the same time?”
“I knew you could do it.”
Also, remember that although some of the best affirmations are spoken and we should all become comfortable praising our grandkids verbally, there are other ways to deliver good words: notes on their pillow, cards in the mail, texts or emails or social media comments, or maybe a letter tucked in a place where your grandchild will find it later.
Let’s start watching for opportunities to affirm our grandkids, where we’re ready with a hug or words of encouragement just in case we get to spring into action. Let’s make sure our grandkids know how we feel about them.
What’s your favorite way to physically or verbally affirm your grandkids? Spread the positive vibes to other grandparents by commenting on our Facebook page here.
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