“Retail therapy” is a real thing for grandparents.
I firmly believe that. Unlike other grandparenting insights that are research-based, this one comes purely from my own observations. But it’s real, I tell you. I’ve had enough experience being around grandmothers to see it. And some grandfathers get involved, too.
I’ve seen an unmistakable flood of endorphins as an enthusiastic Nana purchases or creates gifts to give to her grandchildren. It begins with gathering ideas about what they would like, researching prices and availability, then buying that gift. Then it culminates when she gets to watch those grandkids open the packages and enjoy those items, and she receives a second burst of endorphin-fueled joy.
I often tell grandparents to increase the “gift” line item in their budget, because this joy can involve some significant spending. And although it’s important that we all be wise with our money and not get carried away too much, this giving is often well worth it.
As we approach giving gifts to our grandchildren this holiday season, here are some questions to ask throughout the process:
What comes with the gift?
Your grandchild might really want the toy or gadget and have lots of fun with it, but are there less-than-positive things to consider? Will an electronic device require parental controls or allow the child to access violent or adult content? Is it likely the item will encourage bad habits or distract from schoolwork? These questions lead naturally to another important one:
Are the parents on board?
Generally, it’s a good idea to communicate with the parents before buying things for your grandkids. Maybe you know how their household is run and they’re comfortable with your approach, but it’s good to be certain. Do they think their kids already have too many toys and gadgets? Do they want this new one coming into their home? Do they want their child to have the item? Will the child likely use and enjoy it, and can he or she handle any extra responsibility that comes with it? Do the parents know of someone else who might be giving the child something very similar? If you have any doubts about what you’re planning to give, ask these kinds of questions beforehand. Here are seven things to keep in mind during the process.
How can you give something memorable?
Often, the best gifts aren’t things you order online or buy from a store and then wrap up in a box. Along with (or instead of) those gifts, consider giving an experience or a gift of time where you and the grandchild do something fun together. Or maybe give your grandchild the gift of resources and an opportunity to give to help someone else. Every family is unique, so maybe there will be a natural way to give something meaningful and memorable. Be creative. Talk with your spouse and other grandparents about similar things they have done. Here’s more about giving meaningful gifts.
Giving to our grandchildren is a rewarding experience. Be wise, but don’t miss out on the joy that comes with it.
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